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Taking the lead

A child decided to lead a small group before nap today. They read a story and then gave any child who wanted an I Love You Ritual before bed time. Now that is what I call classroom community! Click on the words classroom community to learn more about I Love You Rituals.

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To do this one at home:

  • Ask your child to put their hand in front of you showing all of their five fingers and having them spread them apart.
  • Point to each finger and say the child’s name or as our child enjoy each person in their family (sometimes pets too!)
  • finish the rhyme by squeezing their hand and saying a positive remark such as, I love you! Good Night! I’m so glad your you (or here today!)!


The beauty of the I Love You Rituals is they can be tailored to you, your family, and your classroom!




Seven Basic Skills of Discpline

Last time, we talked about the seven powers which are described in detail in Dr. Becky Bailey’s book, Conscious discipline.  From these powers, then emerge the seven basic skills of discipline.  These skills are each of the seven chapters of the books and will slowly be outlined over the course of the next few months.  I will shared direct quotes from the text as well as ways we have implemented it and made it our own in our classroom.

The seven skills are:

  1. Composure: Becoming the person you want children to be
  2. encouragement: Building a school family
  3. Assertiveness: saying “no” and being heard
  4. Choices: Building self-esteem and willpower
  5. Positive Intent: creating teaching moments
  6. Empathy: Handling the fussing and the fits
  7. Consequences: Helping children learn from their mistakes

Dr. Bailey also discusses in her book that these skills then filter and support the Life Values and Social Skills.  One of the wonderful things about Dr. Bailey books is that her techniques are all practical and build the foundation for another life process or skill.  Below are the seven life values and social skills!  I hope I have enticed you enough to get the books!

Life Values                                                                                                                 Social Skills

  1. Integrity                                                                                                               1. Anger management
  2. interdependence                                                                                                2. Helpfulness
  3. respect                                                                                                                  3. Assertiveness
  4. empowerment                                                                                                     4. Impulse Control
  5. diversity                                                                                                                5. Cooperation
  6. compassion                                                                                                          6. Empathy
  7. responsibility                                                                                                       7. Problem Solving

I can try to teach you all I have learned through this book but it is not the same as actually owning the text.  Dr. Bailey lays it out in a way where you have activities to do, scenarios to look for to use as teachable moments, ideas to practice, reflections, commitments, and facts.  Consider buying this book and following the blog and sharing your ideas.

Conscious Discipline

The last and definitely not final book that I am reading of Dr. Becky Bailey’s is called Conscious Discipline.  Click the title to visit her site dedicated to the Conscious Discipline program as well as her other materials.  This book is more geared towards teachers but can be applied at home in various ways.  I have not finished reading the book but have taken notes, highlighted, began trying some techniques and ideas in the classroom.  I feel with every book of hers that you can read her work over and over again and still learn from it.

Conscious Disciplines goal is to empower both teachers and children!  The book is built on three major ideas including: controlling and changing ourselves is possible and has profound impact on others, connectedness governs behavior, and a conflict is an opportunity to teach.

The program empowers teachers with the Seven Powers for Self Control:

  • Power of Perception: no one can make you mad without your permission
  • Power of Unity: we are all in this together
  • Power of Attention: What you focus on you get more of
  • Power of Free Will: The only person you can make change is yourself
  • Power of Love: See the best in others
  • Power of Acceptance: The moment is as it is
  • Power of Intention: Conflict is an opportunity to teach

Take a long look at these items.  I want you to reflect on these items.  You can reflect on this blog, email me personally, share with a friend/colleague/family member, or write it down.  Begin with one, make a small attainable goal, and begin to work towards it.  Please let me know about your journey!

My Journey with Dr. Bailey

I began teaching at the Children’s Campus in December of 2007.  Prior to becoming a certified teacher, I spent my college years being what we call a “student worker” in all of the five classrooms.  This means I had the wonderful opportunity to meet families, children, and teachers which served our birth to five year old population.  Through my experiences in each classroom and three years later, I learned so much and was able to take this to my student teaching placement as well as when I began downstairs in my classroom.  Through one of my interactions with a family, they mentioned that when I had my own classroom I would be very interested in learning about Becky Bailey and her techniques.

As part of our way to stay current and make sure that all of the members of our St. Ambrose University Children’s Campus become life-long learners, we each have goals that we maintain and learn from over the course of the year.  After learning hands-on my first year, it was time for me to meet with my director and choose my goal.  I knew automatically that Becky Bailey would be something I would need to study.  Thus begins my journey!

I began by reading, I Love You Rituals.   This book inspired me to begin to bring a sense of community with our children as well as began to observe more closely the rituals the children were creating with their families as well as with us, the teachers.  The first 56 pages describe the importance of I love you rituals, benefits, ways to begin, and also makes the reader reflect on their prior beliefs and current feelings.  The rest of the book contains I love you rituals.  I believe this book is a must have for parents and for educators.  Despite the age range of your children!

Four Goals:

  • Goal One: I Love You Rituals optimize your child’s brain for success at school and in life.
  • Goal Two: I Love You Rituals increase your learning potential and effectiveness through touch.
  • Goal Three: I Love You Rituals create loving rituals that hold families together even through the roughest times
  • Goal Four: I Love You Rituals strengthen the bond between adults and children that insulate children form drugs, violence, and peer pressure laying the foundation for mental and emotional health


  • Routines encourage attention span and cooperation
  • Routines are everywhere and children thrive on them
  • Builds relationships
  • Control over the environment
  • Responsiveness is increased
  • Language
  • Social interactions/turn taking
  • Feedback to our brain

Have I enticed you yet??  Pick up a copy today!  Please post your success stories with this process from an educator and/or parent stand point.

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